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So you have enjoyed the Super Bowl.  Congratulations to Taylor Swift, Travis Kelce and NFL the Kansas City Chiefs.  Your biggest takeaway was that  Valentine’s day is here. You may feel the need to send a gift to a special someone or you may feel you need to find someone to send a Valentines day gift to. 

That’s the easy part. A Valentine gift, such as candy, flowers are common but have a definitive shelf life. However, consider a painting or wall art that will last forever and will prompt your date to think of you each time they gaze at it. Regardless, a gift represents your ticket into the game but you now must perform.  Are you ready?  Let’s go.  In the words of  Mary Jane  ala the great superhero Spider-man: Go get um tiger!

The first and most important issue.  Do not limited yourself to Valentines Day.  Everyday represents an opportunity for you to change your life and  for you to explore the joy of living.

Whether you’re dating in person or online, you can find people with common interests who may be interested in joining you on your life’s journey. You are not alone.  There are billions of people in this world.  There is someone in this world who feels exactly as you do.  They are lonely too and yearn for companionship, friendship or love.  You two have to find each other-that all.

Let’s skip to Chapter 4

Where do you look?

 Where do you look for the love of your life? If you love bowling, you join a bowling club.  If you enjoy politics, you join a political club.  Are you a reader?  Book fairs are popular places to meet library goers.  If you enjoy a particular musical artist, there are plenty of social media clubs that you can join that engage in conversation about your favor music artists and their endeavors.  A common interest will allow you to have a robust conversation, and share passionate and genuine discussions that will reveal a lot about your potential love ability to communicate and reciprocate.   It can also reveal a  person’s true agenda. 

The first date should not be too brief.  Avoid coffee shop dates.  Where are your potential suitor plans to take you tells you a lot about his character, his generosity and his budget.

How your date interacts with the waitress  and with the people around you, reveals to you a lot about him. Is he kind? Is he courteous? Is he professional? Does he appear to be a civilized and decent person? You can discover who your date is only  by with observing his interact with other people.

If you  and your date are dining at a restaurant and you (or the waitress) gets the wrong order, how does he handle the conflict? Is he or she courteous? Again, is he decent and civilized? Does he have a temper and does he have the ability manage his temper. You need to spend time with your potential partner to understand how they interact with you and/ or a stranger because right now you are a stranger.  

To be continued.